by Sherri Murphy, professional matchmaker
Dating nowadays is not the same as it was 50 years ago. Many traditions have changed, for example, men aren’t always the one to pay the bill anymore. Many women offer to pay all or half of the bill, buy the drinks, or buy dessert for the two of you. Same goes for how singles meet nowadays. With new dating apps and services, singles are given more options to choose from and some information on the person before they even decide to send them a message. You can see pictures of what this person looks like to know if you are even attracted to them. There are even professional matchmakers there to help you find your special someone. Read Elite Connections Reviews to see what our clients have to say about us. Online dating seems great, but can make dating more complicated and potentially less safe for you than it has been in the past.
Social media can give away too much information about others and your relationship
You can find out so much about a person by just looking at their social media profiles. You might learn about what they like to do for fun, what they do for work, if they have any pets, or what their political views are. Knowing all this information about someone before even meeting them can seem beneficial but can actually create opinions about the person that you don’t really know. These opinions can make you change the way you act towards the person and can stop you from getting to know who they really are. Also, dating is way more fun when you have things to talk about on a first date.
Private dating services, like Elite Connections, will never post your information or profile on a website for everyone to see. Professional matchmakers in your area will do the work for you by hand selecting successful singles that match your dating preferences and have things in common with you.
Also, choosing when to reveal that you are dating someone new to all you Instagram followers and Facebook friends can be complicated. Sometimes you are still figuring out what to call the relationship and don’t want the whole world to know that. Other times, you would rather keep it to yourself until you know for sure. Regardless, you are not ready to make your relationship “FBO”(Facebook Official) for all your friends and family to see.
There is no “normal date” anymore
From movies and shows, you have probably learned what normal date looked like in the 1960s or 1970s. Usually, the man picked up the woman from her home with flowers to take her to a movie or dinner then respectfully returned her home, promising to call her. In todays world, this is not what most people are used to. A date could look like going to a concert or event or even staying home to watch “Netflix and chill.” Although staying home seems like the perfect option, professional matchmakers would suggest to pick something more intimate and romantic for the first date. A common Elite Connections complaint about online dating is that the singles have a hard time deciding what to do on a first date. Matchmakers in your area will help you set up your first date with someone new, giving you advice on what to do and where to go.
It is hard to decide who should pay
If you asked a gentleman who was paying for a date in the 1960s or 1970s, the man might be confused because back then it was obvious that the man should pay. Now that more and more women are joining the work force, it is not odd for the woman to pay for a date. Professional matchmakers say that both parties should offer to pay for the bill or at least a portion of it. If you expect that the man should always pay for a date, you might be called a sexist or chivalrous for thinking that way. You can always ask your date before hand who should pay for the date so that you can save yourself for the awkward moment when the check comes and you don’t know who is paying.
Texting feels impersonal
Back in the day, the only way to get ahold of your crush was by calling them. Now you can email, text, direct message, and much more to get ahold of the person you are interested in, but this can makes things feel informal and impersonal. With a phone call, you get all your answers questioned in a short amount of time, but it can be nerve wracking to have to think of the right thing to say on the spot. That is why when meeting new people these days, most text or message each other to get to know each other and set up a date. But what if the person you are interested in is very busy and takes forever to reply to a single message so you feel that they aren’t interested in you or are rude. Or sarcasm, emojis, and abbreviations make a text confusing and you cant tell how the person is actually feeling. If you have an important question or would like something answered immediately, it is always better to call. You always get more feedback from a person when you can hear the tones in their voice or see their facial expressions.
People can lie on their profiles
As time has gone on, more and more dating apps, websites, services, and matchmakers have offered help to desperate singles. With so many options for online dating, people are now becoming comfortable with meeting people in person that they have met online. Although online dating seems a lot more desirable than going to clubs to meet new people, you will find out that some people will lie about themselves on their profile or tweak information to make them seem more appealing. If you are tired of being lied to online, consider joining Elite Connections private matchmaking agency, where professional matchmakers sit down with every client and get to know the real you. A common Elite Connections complaint about online dating is that people have outdated photos on their profile or simply don’t look like the person in their photos. Matchmakers in you area sit down with every client, whether it be face-to-face or over video call, to make sure they look like the photos they want on their profiles. We recommend that you use recent photos(taken within the last 5 years) for your profile photos.
One night stands are much more common
A top Elite Connections complaint about online dating is that people who use online dating sites are usually only looking for a hook-up and not a serious relationship. Online dating makes it much easier for people that are looking for hook-ups to find their next prey. Back in the day, people looked at dating much differently than they do today. People only dated to find the person they would want to marry and sex was an added bonus. In this day and age, some people date just to have sex and a relationship with the person is the bonus. If you join a private matchmaking agency, like Elite Connections, most people are looking for something more serious, like a committed relationship or marriage. Read Elite Connections reviews to see why so many singles are ditching online dating sites and apps for private matchmakers.